Phone Sex Show #071: Meet Melanie Mercer

Welcome in, gentlemen. You’re listening to the Phone Sex Show. I’m Mari, a sensual domme who takes clients exclusively by phone. You’ll be hearing from me and my fellow femdom sisters as we talk about experiences with submissive And some not-so-submissive men just like you. If you’ve ever wanted to lean into submissive kinks or you’re erotically curious, you’re gonna love spending time with us. And who knows, maybe you’ll decide to give one of us a call. Find us on the web Hey guys, welcome back to the Phone Sex Show. You’re here with Mari, and I’m joined by Mia, and we have a special guest.

Hi, Mari. Hi, Mia.

Hello, Melanie.

Uh, it’s been a hot minute since we’ve had a guest on the show. Melanie Mercer is a fellow Niteflirt flirt, a dominant woman seeking submissive research participants. I love that. Melanie, how long have you been on Niteflirt?

Oh, I have been on Niteflirt for, um, oh, I’m so bad with dates. I think 2 and a half years. But that comes with a but. Um, I was on Niteflirt before. Um, oh my gosh, like maybe 10 years ago.

Oh, wow.

Yeah. Yeah. Before Chat even was on Niteflirt. Um, I don’t, that was, oh my gosh, it was so long ago. So yeah. Welcome back. Um, yeah.

So 2 and a half years of dominating men, encouraging men to embrace bisexuality.

Mm-hmm. There’s some submissive tendencies. Yeah. And I love it. I love every second of it. Mm-hmm.

So we’ve been through some changes at Niteflirt recently. Um, you mentioned being on Niteflirt before there was chat. I can’t even imagine. Yeah, but I, I don’t know about you, but I love the changes. Um, we’ve talked about it on the podcast, being able to change the, the price on chat.

Yeah,

it’s amazing.

Yes, the— oh my gosh. Okay, so I went from hating chat to being so happy to chat with people. Um, you know, for me, chat is something that’s very hard to engage in, like, long term when it’s at 99 cents. But— and I, I know that guys don’t love to talk about money and whatever, but, um, you know, when, when you can choose the rate and choose what, you know, what level of engagement— because at some point it’s like, how am I going to engage with you? Is it going to be an in-depth conversation, or is it just going to be like— Uh-huh. Yeah. Okay.

Yeah,

it’s— it makes it a lot easier to, um, you know, to feel like you’re being properly able to engage, I guess.

Yeah, I want to feel motivated.

Exactly.

And I immediately felt more motivated when—

yes,

I— my default rate is $1.49 per message instead of 99 cents. Yeah. And, but that, that default rate is subject to change at any time based on whether you pissed me off, annoyed me, or bored me like that, you know? And this, this happened recently where somebody, they didn’t piss me off. They weren’t necessarily boring me. But they were slow rolling me.

Mm-hmm.

And I just, I bumped it up to $249. Mm-hmm. And, and he sent this question mark. It’s like, why’d you raise my price? I said, it’s a tax on being a slow typer, apparently.

Yeah.

And he just, he just LOL’d. And didn’t complain and paid the $2.49.

Yeah.

But he wasn’t a— he wasn’t a slow typer. He was just, you know, he was just slowly— I’m— he’s over there edging, playing, thinking, and he’s just chatting with me like every 3 minutes. And it’s like, if I’m not gonna just go do my fucking laundry You know, if I’m gonna wait for you at all, you’re gonna pay more.

Yeah.

I love that.

Yeah. For me, there’s also an element of like, if I find a guy to be frustrating and I’m thinking about blocking them, um, and these are like the chat guys, you know?

Yeah.

I might think, well, what if I was charging him? Like, what, what is the rate that I would be comfortable charging him? You know, like, yes. Like, what, what would I— if this was a guy where I was like, if I was gonna take his call, what would I charge him for his call? You know?

Mm-hmm.

Um, and sometimes it’s like $2.99 per message or whatever it is. And if they’re willing to continue paying that to chat with me, then cool, let’s do it. But otherwise, like, no, that’s okay. But, but I won’t necessarily block you if you’re not, you know, being gross or abusive.

Mm-hmm.

But that’s where we’re at.

You do small penis humiliation sometimes? Yes.

Often. Yeah.

There, there was a gentleman who came into my chat right after the dynamic pricing became an option, and he said, uh, by way of introduction, my penis is only 3 inches, so I’m sure you’ll want to raise my chat rate. And I just giggled and changed it to $3 per message and said, you know, I love a man who understands his shortcomings, you know.

Yeah,

um, that’s, that’s really hot.

Yeah, I agree.

Melanie, I noticed that you have a few cam listings, so you are, you are, um, Not just one-way cam either. You do have a flirt watches you.

I do.

One way, but then you have a couple of cam options.

Yeah. So I have, um, I have— okay, so when we had phone with cam, which you may— you— I remember you used to do that because I think you were involved in the— in that whole— oh my gosh, the beta testers. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, let’s Not even— I don’t even want to talk about that. But, um, yeah, so I cammed before, like phone with phone with cam, and, um, I have a 2-way cam line. Um, and then I also have like an ignore line. So if they want me to ignore them, I will.

I’ll show them my feet. They love looking at my feet. Um, but that’s not like— I don’t— as you can see, it doesn’t— like, they’re not staying on for 15 minutes. And those guys— As I’m sure, you know, I’m sure you— bane of everyone’s existence— they don’t rate. So like maybe what, like 10% of guys are rating. So that doesn’t have any stars. But I’ve— a lot of guys actually do like to call in and just have me ignore them while they stare at my feet, which I thought— And just to kind of give you like a story from that one, I had a guy recently call in and I was like, oh, I’m so sorry. Like, I have this huge callus on my foot and He was like, oh, I was like, okay.

Like, I was gonna say, he was probably fucking turned on by that callus.

Yeah, I was like, oh, I’m so sorry, there’s all this dead skin. He was like, oh my God. Wait, like, women, women often think— I think with foot fetish, you know, one of my best guys is a foot guy, and he’s explained to me over and over again that they don’t want models’ feet. They don’t— sure, get a pedicure, they want to see your painted toes, but like If you have dry skin, if you have like cracked heels, oh my God, they want— they, they could go look online and see a model’s foot, right? They want your feet.

Yeah.

Anyway,

I remember, uh, so I started in August and 3, 3 and a half years ago, right?

Yeah. Um, but there was, there was a, like a December, this guy was like, you know, do you have some pictures of your feet? And I said, of course. And he says that, you know, dirty, like dirty, dirty feet.

Oh yeah.

Like, what do you mean dirty? Like, like dirty, like you were walking in the dirt. And I’m like, I’m like, like, I live in Michigan. It’s fucking cold out there. I’m like, okay. I said, you’re gonna make it worth my while. But I walked out to the mail and like ground my feet into the dirt. I came in and took some pictures. Okay, that’s what makes you happy.

But I hadn’t thought about a cam ignore line. That’s a great idea. That’s a great idea.

Yeah.

Do you enjoy the camming? You enjoy eyeballing the guys?

I do. Um, Okay, so here’s my thing. Um, many years ago— I, I don’t switch online, but I do like, I do like being submissive in my real life. And many years ago, I remember talking to a guy who dominated me. This— oh my God, this was so long ago. And I remember talking to him after, and he said to me, that he likes dominating people, you know, because he likes giving them something that is hard to ask for. And that is how I feel about being a Domme, you know, and, and online, I feel like we are really being service Doms, right? Like guys are calling in. Um, and, and we talked about this before, like, you know, before we were recording.

I hope we can— I hope I can say that. Yeah. I’m not gonna say any names, but, uh, we talked about this where, you know, like guys call us and they’re like, this is what I want to do. Um, and I feel like that is very much service topping or service domming. Um, but I really enjoy that. I love giving people an experience that is hard for them to— especially with humiliation. Like, these are hard and vulnerable moments for people, you know?

Yeah.

And Sometimes these guys will come onto cam and be doing truly unhinged things. Like, on another site that we talked about also, um, I had a guy, he just connected with me on cam, no texting before, no nothing. And he was in a hood, like, you know, one of those like kink hoods.

Mm-hmm.

Dressed as a maid. All right. There was, like, drum and bass music blaring, and he was just dancing around, chastity cage on. He had, like, poppers. Yeah. Whatever, I guess, you know, whatever. Compliance be damned. And he’s, like, huffing his poppers.

He’s dancing around, like, dick flapping around. And I watched him like that for, like, almost 20 minutes. Okay. And I, I changed, I changed their names on the other site because we can’t leave good notes. Excuse me. And I just remember thinking, like, imagine connecting with somebody who was, like, not okay with that. And meanwhile, I’m like, I fucking love this. Like, I texted him after and I was like, next time you do this, you better connect with me because I want to see this.

Like, I want to see that again. Mm-hmm. But I’ve seen guys dress up and, like, hump poles in their basements or do crazy stuff. And I think like there’s so many people who are really not even on Niteflirt, so many flirts who are not into that. And okay, be into what you’re into, but I love it.

It’s

not, not all of it. Not all of it. I don’t want to see all of it, but most of it, you know, most of it. Sorry, go ahead. You can.

It’s interesting because I am, I’m sexually dominant. I’m dominant.

Yeah.

I’m, I’m that type A choleric, want to be in charge.

Yeah.

Um, like, but I’ve got, I’ve got about 15% phlegmatic, make like a duck, let it roll off my back. Not my circus, not my monkey’s energy. I have just enough of that to keep me sane in this crazy fucking world.

Yeah.

Um, But I, I don’t like to be micromanaged. I don’t like— I don’t like to be topped from the bottom.

Mm-hmm.

However, if someone comes in and says, I have a strange kink, I have, I have some, some difficult fetishes, and I desperately crave to experience it from someone like you, they’re typically attracted to my age and my, my big soft boobies, you know, just to make it, just to make it plain. Um, and, and so when someone comes at me openly and vulnerable,

mm-hmm,

I just get curious, like, okay, lay it on me. Like, give me examples why Where I get curious and I ask lots of questions, and if they can communicate, I have often found myself able to get into that headspace of, okay, like, I’m not a pain. I don’t wanna cause someone pain. But if you, if you help me understand it and I can catch the vision, I can supervise some pain.

Mm-hmm.

But if you come in And you’re like, and now you’ll do this, and now you do that. I’ll be like— I’m like, I hang up. I have hung up on more little whiny bottoms than I can count.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Um, but communication is hot. Vulnerability is sexy.

Mm-hmm. Um, you know what you were saying about like the topping from the bottom? I, I hate that. And I do, I hang up on people like that too. I like the communication, but the one— while we’re on this topic, the one that I really don’t like, and maybe you can agree with me on it, is the, and then what? And then what? And then what? Yeah. I hate that. I’m like, do you want to call back my silent call line? Like, we can talk about that there. Like, um, I really don’t like that one. But I, I agree with you where it’s, um, when, when they have something very clear in mind but they’re not able to communicate it.

Like, they’re like, you know, um, but oftentimes I feel like people do have something in mind and they want, they want it, uh, to be out in the open. Mhm. I feel like that is often the case with the bi stuff, or another kind of— like, it’s some other kind of humiliation. Um, I don’t have the big boobies, and I’m not, I’m not, you know, um, older. I’m trying to find like a way—

Mature.

Mature. I’m not as mature. Um, I guess I’m like— I’m— I don’t know, I guess that under like a definition I could be a MILF, but, um, Yeah, but, um, I think oftentimes they think that I’m, um, like a sensual dom, and I’m, I’m not really. I really like— yeah, I really like to lean into more like, you’re gonna do this and you’re gonna do that. Um, yeah, that’s kind of more my vibe.

I Um, when some submissive men,

mm-hmm,

and I would put them in the brat category. Mm-hmm. Which I don’t— brats can stay the fuck away. I have zero, zero patience for brats.

Uh-huh.

Uh, in, in any, In any space, not just sexually. Um,

yeah,

but the, the subby men who are playing this crazy game of Russian roulette where like they come in like— I’m sure you’ve experienced this— like, goddess, I’m here, I’m on my knees.

Oh.

What do you want me to do? Oh yeah, then they’re sitting there with bated breath waiting to see, do they get red number 17 from you?

Yeah,

you know, and when you don’t immediately dole out the 8-ball response that they were looking for, then they start adjusting you like, oh no, and then you do this, and no, and then you do that. Like, it’s like I like the minute that that starts to happen, I start to issue tribute demands. Mm-hmm. And if the tribute demands aren’t paid, then I just, then I just hang up. You know, I just say, you fucked around and you found out that this is not Burger King. Bye. And sometimes in my experience, a brat will snap the fuck out of it. When you’re that clear that, oh, you thought you were like telling the sandwich artist in Subway what to do.

No. Yeah. Um, but this— but the men who are willing to say, let’s get to know each other.

Yes.

Let’s— what turns you on? I don’t— I used to hate that question, but now I’m comfortable answering it.

Mm-hmm.

Um, but then they have to be too.

Yeah.

You know, what turns you on? When’s the last time you orgasmed? What were you thinking about? When was the last time you felt like somebody really fucking nailed it? What was— what was going on and what were you feeling like? If you can be— if you can spend some time Being open about it.

I agree.

Yeah, you might be blown away at what this creative mind can, can come up with.

Yeah. And I feel like, again, um, often it’s a problem with either communication or vulnerability where— or, or even sometimes I think that they are concerned Like, I’ve had people say that they feel like they’re not being submissive if they’re communicating in that way, which I think is, you know, it just, it sucks because again, like, I know that I have such fun and such great connection with people, but if they can’t communicate to me, if they’re coming in with, you know, again, I’m on my knees, I, I’m crawling over to you, I wanna worship you. And I’m like, what? Okay, what does worship look like for you? And. I have a theory. Um, can I share my theory with you?

Yes.

Okay, so my theory is that there is a certain kind of man who is very vanilla but believes, kind of due to his socialization or whatever, that he is being submissive when he is engaging in sexual acts with a woman where his orgasm isn’t centered. So, you know, so Um, so if he is going down on a woman, then she’s being dominant and he’s being submissive. Or if, if a woman is, um, stroking his dick, but then he doesn’t have an orgasm, then he’s being submissive. And to me, those are extremely vanilla acts, and that’s not submission, um, unless there is something submissive, like, happening, you know. Mm-hmm. Or maybe, maybe another Domme will listen to this and she will disagree with me. Fine. You know, I’m okay with that.

But that’s not the kind of domination that I like to play with.

Yeah.

Which is, again, like, I, I am more interested in kind of like hands-off and I don’t want to, you know, like, I, I really like the encouraged bi stuff. I really like humiliation and, you know, like, Yeah, but that’s my theory.

I definitely have that sensual dom side, and Mia and I have received extensive body worship from several callers who— they have full permission to describe what they’re doing to make me feel good.

Ugh, I’ll send them to you.

They have full permission. I’m

like,

They’re doing the talking. They’re being— they’re doing the creativity. Um, the— I’m, I’m ex— I’m a visualization fanatic, so I love to paint the picture of what you’re doing to me. If you’re not verbal.

Yeah.

And you just want me— I, I can describe 45 minutes of you worshiping me from toe to pussy.

Um, I, I do. Like, I, I’m happy to do that too. I just like, I don’t want to be the only one doing that. Like, they have to, you know, they have to be engaging too. I will send those. I will be like, listen, I have a friend who, like, if you, if you want to be humiliated, I will humiliate the shit out of you. If you want to suck a dick for me, I will. Let’s do it.

But if you want to— Yeah. Worship someone. I, I got— I’ve got 2 people for you.

It’s nice to— it’s, it’s so nice to get to know you and your vibe too, because Mia knows this. Um, men— my experience of men is that, is that there’s a certain number of them that, that their, their greatest pleasure comes from knowing I’m gonna talk about them.

Yeah.

To someone else. Like, there’s a guy, there’s a young man who serves both Mia and I, and he’ll check in. Have you told Mia about our last call? Did you show Mia that last pic? And I’m always like, nah, my fucking job. You should be texting her and reporting in about how you served me.

Yeah.

Um, you know, but sending men over

Yeah.

Say, okay, you know, you served me really well. Um, you, you, you got off, you, you had the nut, you, you had, you squirted in your cage worshiping that black cock for me. Good boy. Um, now clean up and send a report over to Melanie so that she can humiliate you too.

Yeah.

Like, and it’s like, um, That kind of stuff is so fun. And there’s just— yeah, there’s not enough. Um,

I agree. Yeah.

There’s, there’s, there’s not enough of that happening.

Yeah. And, and like, I will be clear that like, especially after I get to know someone, like once there’s like an element of closeness, I will get into the like, okay, you know, like you can touch me. I’m not like, I don’t know, I’m into that a little bit, but I feel like not to the extent that you are. But that’s okay.

The denial— there’s— there are moments and there are attitudes. You— I’m positive for you to be as well received as you are. I see the— I see the feedback on your listings. I, I see the numbers. Like, you’re clearly driving relationships That, that are hitting the spot with this community.

Yeah.

Um, oh, my brain, my brain just hit a wall. I shouldn’t— a text, a text came up on my phone and blew my mind.

Oh, that happens to me all the time. Yeah.

But there’s— you’re good at picking up on men’s energy.

Yeah, that’s— yeah.

And there are those moments where someone will take a liberty with me.

Yeah, yeah.

And it’s like, you do not have permission to even imagine that you can see my pussy, let alone that you just got a chance to smell it, you motherfucker, dirty motherfucker. You know, back on your heels, like, get the fuck away from me. You know, there’s the You don’t. And this is mood. It can be a mood. There’d be another day where I’d be like, fuck yeah, I know it sounds sweet, doesn’t it? You know?

Oh yeah, that’s, that’s very true. Um, I will say that like, if they, like, I can, and, and to this point, you know, like you see it around often where people are like, oh, I was mean to this guy and it’s time to sign off, you know? Yeah. Like that’s when you know it’s time to sign off. Um, But there are days when I feel generous, you know?

Yeah.

And if I’m feeling generous, if I’m in a generous mood, then instead of just like, oh, you can taste my pussy on his dick or on my panties, then maybe I’ll be like, yeah, okay, I’ll sit on your face. Sure. Okay. Um, yeah, okay, we can do that. We can do this. You know, you got me in a good mood. Yeah.

Yeah. Oh, Melanie, I’m so glad we got a chance to get to know you and play with you. My— sorry, someone is trying to fuck with me. Um, the— I’m gonna link. So this is episode number 71 of the Phone Sex Show, guys. If you wanna come back to the website, phonesexshow.com, find episode number 71. We’re linking over to Melanie’s Niteflirt. profile to one of her favorite goodies.

So even if she’s not online right now, you can get a little taste of her. I hope you follow up with her. She’s got cams, she’s got chat, she’s got, she’s got different topics and lots of goodies. So awesome, Melanie. Thank you so much for making time for us.

Yeah.

Yes. Thank you.

It was so nice to get to know both of you too.

the— your vibe is amazing, and I’m so glad. I’m so glad you’re part of the Niteflirt biosphere and that men get to experience all the sexy humiliation and bisexual adventure that they could ever crave, whether they know it now or not.

Oh my gosh. Yeah. Oh, thank you so much for having me. And, um, I’ll see you two online and guys too.

Bye guys.

Bye.

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