Phone Sex Show #63: Communication Ushers In Deeply Satisfying Experiences

Phone Sex Show Episode #63 Transcript

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Hey guys, welcome back. This is Mari. Hi, Mia.

Hi, Mari.

You’re back listening to the phone sex chat show. And me and I were just talking about how sexy communication is.

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some.

Some of our calls, some of some really hot, deeply satisfying calls have happened spontaneously with someone I have never spoken to before. And they just coming out of the gate hot, and we find a vibe and before we know it, like orgasms. And that kind of crazy chemistry is pretty rare. I know, I know you’ve experienced it before, Mia, where it’s just like, damn, where’d he come from?

Yes.

And how did he know all the right buttons to push? And those are fun. More of those, please, universe. Go ahead, bring them by. Yes. And sometimes I never end up talking to that guy again. Like, gosh, whether. Whether they’re a private client who found me through social media or directory or my website or this podcast, or they came, you know, on one of the platforms. They’re.

They’re just. I don’t know, I. I make up stories like, maybe they only get to do this once in a blue moon, so they’re all pent up. Or. Or maybe they just. Maybe they’re addicted to strange. That’s my. The trucker.

That was his term. Guys love strange. Doesn’t matter how good the is, there’s some more strange to smell, taste, enjoy, for sure. My God. And. And. And aren’t I glad that I was the strange today?

Yeah,

but you know, the callers who are more invested in a connection, clients, professional relationships, subs, however. However they think of themselves. We can’t rely on the possibility of spontaneous chemistry. We need communication. And let me tell you what communication is sexy as when a man is willing to invest a little time up front in getting to know me,

telling

me about themselves, sharing, you know, what they’re into, checking around limits and boundaries. Like, what’s okay, what’s not okay, what’s the vibe? I talk to some men who. And I’m sure You’ve experienced this, Mia, I feel like they are testing me. They’re not communicating, they’re flirting.

Yeah.

And you know, they’re like, so what are you into? And I tell them a few things. What are you into, baby? I just want to hear more about what you’re into. Okay, tell them a little bit more about me. So what turns you on, baby? I just want to be all about pleasing you. Well, guess what? One of my kinks is not boring who don’t communicate. That’s not sexy. No, wait a minute, let me check in on that. I suppose that there might be a dumb out there for whom that’s what they want to hear.

They want you to be a blank slate, An empty headed automaton. Maybe I’ve never met her. If you know one, maybe send her over because we could interview her about that kink and why that, why she finds that arousing. But when you’re like, oh, I just like whatever you like, goddess. I just want to do or whatever you want to do, goddess. I. I just. Whatever you say, goddess.

Like, oh my God, you’re boring. Our friend Shannon says her goto is if she’s asked them a few times, like what are you into? And they say whatever you want, goddess. Okay, well I’m putting you in panties and you’re sucking dick. They’re like all of a sudden they’re

like, oh, wait, wait, wait.

No, I’m not into that. Oh, you, your voice, good boy.

And I love that. Oh my God. But that’ll get him talking.

Yeah, I don’t want to, I don’t want to pick on the deeply submissive good boy. Because I love a deeply submissive good boy. But even a deeply submissive good boy can use his words.

Yes.

To say I love to worship thick thighs. I love to be denied orgasm. I love to be spoon fed porn to goon to while we’re on the phone together. Communicating about what excites you is sexy. I know for a fact that there are some men who they say whatever you want, goddess, because they secretly hope your kink will line up with their kink spontaneously. And that’s a great hope. It’s a nice dream. It’s a hot idea.

But do you know how many different kinks there are? Do you?

Many.

Do you know how many different flavors there are? If you want to experience mind blowing, spontaneous stars aligning calls. I hope you like gambling because it’s like rolling the dice. And if that’s what you’re looking for, go for it. I mia have you ever gotten the call where someone calls and they’re like, oh, like everything about you turns me on. I’m so excited. I want to worship you. And then three minutes later they’ve hung up.

I have not experienced that.

Oh, you haven’t? Guess it’s just me. Just kidding. It happens to a lot of us. But it’s because they were looking for a vibe and they didn’t find it. They were trying to get there, but whatever, the energy that they got back from me did not mesh with what they were looking for. Or I suppose they like blew their nut quietly and went on their way. But I think a lot of times the men who hang up in the first minute or two or three are like, no, this ain’t it. Yeah, saying it.

She looked good. Her voice amp looked good. My experience of her is not pushing the buttons for me. And so they hang up. Sometimes they just say, thank you for your time. I’m not feeling it. Hang up. Y, I’m not offended by hang ups.

Yeah, I, I, I just nod my head, make a note. Super sure call. That’s my little clue to me that we did not find a vibe. Maybe they and, and because I have more than one profile, sometimes they call my next profile, which makes me giggle because I’m not going to pretend to be a different voice or something.

Right.

I got somebody hang up on me as one of my profiles after just two minutes, then call one of their profiles and be on the phone with me for 45 minutes. I don’t know why it felt so different to them. There’s so much, so much of our experiences of these calls are in our own heads.

Yeah.

Imagination. Listen, if you want to play craps, if you want to roll the dice, if you want to hope to be dealt a good card without communicating clearly, have fun and hopefully it works out for you.

You know, I, I’ve been thinking of something since we started having this conversation, Mari. It took me back to a couple weeks ago, that Friday night that we were, you know, streaming.

Yeah.

And I had that gentleman call and he was not commute. I mean he was communicating. But I was asking him things over and over and over and he just wasn’t tell anything that he was into. And I just kept thinking if he had just given me a like the teensiest little piece of oh, this is my turn on, I think that call could have went way fucking differently and not have ended as awkwardly as that call ended.

Yeah.

So guys, you gotta, you gotta give us something to work with because other Words. You know, we’re not mind readers.

And here’s the I’m glad you said mind reader, Mia, because that is a huge turn on for some subby men. The sense that she’s reading my mind. You got you. You have this increasingly witchy vibe, Mia. You’re like witchy, whimsical, like, I’m still

not a mind reader.

Yeah, but what if you are?

Okay, maybe I am.

If, you know, that may be some of these guys that. That’s a kink for them. Like,

I never thought of it that

way, who can read my mind, you know? However, I’ve had calls where men have said, it’s like, we’ve talked before and we’ve never talked before. It’s like, you know me and I don’t know them. Yeah, but, you know, we all put off little clues and vibes and sometimes we are able to pick up on them. However, if you’re telling yourself a story that the only way to get truly mind. To truly enjoy a deep experience with somebody who dominates you is that is that you can’t have given them any clue and that. And that they just nail you. That that’s the magical itch you’re trying to scratch. Gamble all you like.

I hope you enjoy spending a lot of time looking for it. And maybe that’s part of the kink for you being disappointed by repeated situations where you don’t get what you were looking for. There. There are a lot of people who live their lives that way. Not just kinks. They just. They just go around repeating disappointments.

Yeah,

but listen, there is another way. There’s another way to get what you want. It’s called open communication. It’s called. So let me tell you about one of my very satisfying professional relationships. This is. This has gone hard girlfriend experience. Hard, deep girlfriend experience.

Because we have been communicating steadily since the middle of March of this year. And the first he first reached out via chat, introduced himself and said, I know you’re dominant. I’m not a sub, but there’s something about you. I just really want to spend some time with you. Like, could you meet me on level playing ground? I love that request. He didn’t say, can I dominate you? He said, can we meet on level playground? I’m like, you got me. You’re. I’m curious.

Let’s have a chat. We talked about what he’s into, which he’s just a super assertive, aggressive. Not like dominant bdsm, but just like, oh, my God, I want to her so bad energy.

Yeah.

And, and we discussed like two adults, we discussed how we could play with that. It was probably a 45 minute conversation. And yes, he paid for the conversation.

Yeah,

he had all of my attention, all of my energy. We learned about each other and we came up with a way to play on the next call. Now since then we have had hot calls, watching porn together, like co dominating a MILF slut. Oh my God, we’ve been having so much fun. And then at least two more times since then he’s messaged me and said, hey, I want to touch base on how things are going and where I’d love it to go next. And so we get on the phone another like 15, 20 minutes. He’s like, I’ve been fantasizing about this. Would that be okay with you? I love it.

He’s, he’s a grown ass man who wants to experience something and he’s willing to talk about it, communicate about it. Ask me, how do you feel about that?

Yes, I, I love that so much because think about like the experience that not just him, but you have had with him. Had he like come across your profile and realized, oh, you know, I can’t dominate her and just like walked away without having that communication with you. He would have missed out on having some fucking, you know, amazing experience experiences that he has had. So I guess like what that says to me is don’t ever be afraid to ask or communicate because that’s what we’re talking about. It’s all about communication, guys. Like if there’s something that you want, just ask us. If it’s something that I’m not into, I would simply tell you, hey, you know, that’s not something that, you know, I’m into playing with. But hey, maybe, you know, if it’s something that you would play with, Mari, I’d be like, hey, go check out my friend Mari.

Yes, the, just compare the, the gentleman who has a fantasy about being owned, manipulated, taken down deep by a complete stranger, which is a very romantic, erotic, meet cute storyline that rarely actually happens. There’s far more disappointing, frustrating experiences for that person. And if you have, if you’ve been doing that for months now, and that’s the story is I keep calling these women and I keep hoping that they’re going to get it right and they never get it right. And all I do is waste my money. You compare the half a dozen 10 minute calls wasted in that effort to my guy who just took one good call to communicate about what he wants. Yep. And now he and I are off to the races with an ever deepening pleasurable experience for both of us. And that’s important to him.

He really wants me to come too. And the only way that’s gonna happen is that we are in agreement about it. Yep. So let this be an invitation to you guys to take a chance and communicate and, yeah, pay for the privilege of that communication if you are one of our night flirt friends. This is not me telling you to send me a two page email.

Oh, God, yeah, please. No.

God damn it. Some guy did that to me this past weekend. Send me this email is like, it wasn’t two pages, but it was a lot.

A long one. Yeah, I’ve had those two.

He’s like, oh, I want this and I want this and I want this and I want this and then this. And I was just like, I respond the way I always do, the way many of us do. Chat or call.

Yeah.

Send. I don’t get paid to read your email.

Nope.

How dare you express anything? How dare you send me that much to consume? What do you think I’m gonna do? You think I’m going to sit there and read that? Let it occupy my thoughts? It’s bad enough to email, period. I do have one really good boy. For some reason he doesn’t chat, but if he sends me an email, he always sends a tribute too.

Oh, I love that.

So even if it’s a little email like, goddess, I really want to spend some time with you today. I’m going to look for you between this time and this time. Five bucks.

Nice.

Sweet. It’s sweet and respectful. If you’re a steady caller, you have nice long calls, an email from you is not going to offend me. But if I’ve never talked to you before, don’t you email me without some kind of a tip. You use that chat function. Yep. Don’t be a brokeback.

Oh, my God.

The boy who sent me the long email, I said, chatter call. He wrote back. He said, oh, I’m gonna call Goddess.

Oh, please.

And. And I ignored it. And he never called.

Yeah, exactly.

Before I signed off for the day, I blocked the. Yep. Because he’s over there writing that email, jerking off, looking at my pictures. Huh?

100% you. Yeah.

And listen, I post to social media. I. I get messages from people going, oh, I’m stoking to that picture on Twitter. Goddess. I. I say, I say word. I said, don’t forget the contacts. Sometimes they pay it, sometimes they don’t.

There’s a. There’s plenty of freebie looky lose out there on social media, I don’t have a problem with that. But asking me to think about it, be aware of it, react to it anyway without a tip. You. Yeah, you and your dripping dick.

Damn.

Communication is sexy as I could tell you another half a dozen stories but. But guys, wouldn’t you like to be my next hot story that I tell Mia about a sexy dude who communicated makes my wet when somebody takes a little time to get to know me and for me really get to know you and to then build on it. This is, this is the takeaway. Those of you who are playing that, oh my God. I hope I run into a mind reader today. Gambling game. It’s very unsatisfying, it’s very frustrating and if that’s your kink, have at it. It don’t have all to do with me, but have at it.

But if you reach down, cup your balls and try something new, you can leave that frustration behind and go deeper and deeper and darker and more satisfying in ways you can’t even fathom. Because whether you’re playing with me or Mia or any one of our sexy spicy friends, like. The pleasure only grows with the comfort and the understanding. So take a chance. Give it a try. It’s hot. Thanks for spending time with us today guys. Hope we spend a little one on one time soon.

Bye Mia.

Bye Mari.

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